Month: November 2023

One major way we heal is by making sense of what happened to us. Simply by being able to tell a coherent narrative about what happened can go a long way to healing triggers. Also, you can use art to understand and and heal attachment wounds. Below are some drawing I did to represent what […]

5 Things You Need For Secure Attachment

November 8, 2023

(And my surprising advice about where to find it) There are 5 developmental needs that must be practiced to ensure a secure relationship. (1) a sense of felt safety. (2) a sense of being seen and known. (3) the experience of felt comfort. (4) a sense of being valued. (5) a sense of support

How different Attachment Styles show up for Sex

November 8, 2023

Deep dive on how sexual attachment happens, why it fails, and the 3 types of sex

Getting Unstuck with DMR Deep Mind Reframing

November 6, 2023

Getting Unstuck – clearing unconscious roadblocks to gain mental clarity with DMR, Deep Mind Reframing We often think in a way that makes it IMPOSSIBLE to change Some even believe their mind is their own worst enemy. But we can make friends with our unconscious and speak directly to Deep Mind. This way the whole […]

Attachment, Despair, and the Unlived Life.

November 4, 2023

Without the gaze of love – positive regard – one is scarcely a person, but feels only a deformed individual, ever struggling to achieve a place in the world. We need to feel we belong. We need to feel valued. We need to feel we’re good at something. We need to feel we have a […]

Poems For Secure Attachment

November 1, 2023

A few of my favorite poems demonstrating important aspects of attachment wounds. Also I discuss the idea that only long lasting relationships ought to be considered successful. The Poems : Every wise man I met in Asia warned me against caring. Explained how everything I loved would get old, or be taken away and I […]

Avoidant attachment – the living dead ?

November 1, 2023

In this video I go over extreme Dismissive Avoidant attachment, the impossible dilemma of the Avoidant, how it cuts them off from life and vitality, and then discuss the Ideal Parent Figure Protocol to help fix it. Below are some astonishing quotes from various clinical papers describing extreme Avoidant Attachment tending toward the schizoid, which […]